A gender variant child in a school is not always easy to manage for teachers and the people who work there. There are several reasons why this happens: the lack of information about it, the inability to manage it in a positive way and the moral prejudices of the professionals involved. It may therefore happen that the behaviour of such children who break gender norms and stereotypes is interpreted as being unrespectful of school’s rules or as a behavioral problem of the child, or as something that has to be contained as much as possible. This creates conflicts and problems that might contribute to the child’s unhappiness forcing him /her sometimes even to leave school.
In reality, gender variance should be a great opportunity to re-think and to undertake diversity-related activities that will benefit not only the gender variant child, but all students and the educational institution as a whole. Dealing with extracurricular issues such as gender, ethnicity, sexuality, functional capacity etc. provide the new generations with an inclusive culture that not only makes the school safer for everyone, but also facilitates relationships with classmates and the bond with teachers, transforming the atmosphere of the educational center in its entirety.
As parents, it is important to try to keep a open, honest and fluid communication with your children’s teachers in order to create a sort of continuity between the child’s experience at home and at school. If the teacher is not particularly willing to accept the way the child expresses his/her gender, it will be useful to search within that same school someone (teacher, principal, coordinator, etc.) that demonstrates a greater sensitivity and a better understanding. Collaboration between parents and teachers is at the basis of the child’s happiness that allows him/her to feel comfortable and accepted for who they are.